206. Consistency Is Foreplay: Food Freedom Through Your Erotic Blueprint
206. Consistency Is Foreplay: Food Freedom Through Your Erotic Blueprint
What if consistency didn’t feel like a chore... but like foreplay?
In this groundbreaking episode of the Embodied Writing Warrior Podcast, Kayla MacDonald invites you into an entirely new paradigm—one where emotional eating, food obsession, and chronic inconsistency are healed not with shame or discipline, but with desire.
Drawing from Jaiya’s Erotic Blueprint™ framework, Kayla breaks down how your unique erotic wiring can be the key to sustainable food freedom. Whether you're a Sensualist craving romance and ambiance, a Kinky soul who thrives on structure and surrender, or a Shapeshifter needing variety and nuance—your path to healing is as personal as your turn-on.
You’ll learn:
What the 5 Erotic Blueprints™ are and how to identify yours
Why blueprint-aligned eating creates sustainable, joyful consistency
How the Food Freedom Fantasy™ method personalizes healing with character archetypes
Why Kayla’s blueprint (33% kinky + a strong shapeshifter blend) transformed everything
How her archetypes, Rex and Haven, reflect different blueprint energies
The connection between shame, sensuality, and food patterns
Which "sacred metabolizers" to focus on based on your blueprint
💋 And yes—there’s even a playful breakdown of Rex and Haven’s erotic blueprint makeup. Spoiler: Rex is 50% kinky, Haven is 35% sensual, and it shows.
Ready to turn on your relationship with food?
Don’t miss the free Eat Me masterclass: Reclaiming Appetite, Pleasure & Power Through Your Erotic Blueprint™. Available free for 7 days only.
Links Mentioned:
Jaiya’s Erotic Blueprint™ Quiz (Free + $17 Full Report)
Eat Me: Reclaiming Appetite, Pleasure & Power Through Your Erotic Blueprint™ Masterclass
Carolyn Elliott – Existential Kink
Institute For The Psychology Of Eating
Connect With Gina (Guest teacher in Dance Alchemy, Erotic Blueprint work)
Divine Daddies Audio Storybook
Transcript
Hello and welcome to a spicy and transformative episode of the Embodied Writing Warrior Podcast. I am extra excited for this one because I don't think this has been talked about in quite this way before. This is also something that's been deeply transformative for me. And I am ready to bring this into the world and share it so every woman can benefit from this upgrade.
Today we're turning consistency into foreplay. We're talking about how to use your personal erotic blueprint to transform your relationship with food. Eliminate unwanted habits like binge eating and chronic dieting, all while feeling lit up, turned on and alive in your body. This is part of a mini series and we started with episode 2 0 4, which was turn on and Sexual energy, the Unexpected Path to Food Freedom.
In today's episode, I'm sharing what an erotic blueprint is. If you don't already know and how to find yours, I'm gonna share why your erotic blueprint is the key to food freedom.
I'm gonna talk about the five erotic blueprints and how to use them to transform your relationship with food in a way that feels pleasurable, sexy, and aligned to your specific preferences and desires. And then I'm gonna talk about how to use the Food Freedom Fantasy Method and spicy parts work to make this journey even more fun, playful, and magical.
I pretty sure this is the juiciest episode I've ever created. So let's go and if you're listening and you wanna deepen into this journey with me inside a masterclass, get ready for Eat Me. Reclaiming appetite, pleasure, and power through your erotic blueprint. This will give you the energetic upgrades, the personalized rituals, and the embodiment practices to take this wisdom from.
An aha moment into sustainable shifts you can bring with you into 2026 and beyond. The link to the signup will be in the show notes as well, and this is gonna be a one-time lived experience and it'll be free if you show up live or catch the replay within seven days. After that, it will become a premium self-paced ritual in my vault because a masterclass this good deserves sacred sensual space.
Now, as we dive in, let me start by saying that the erotic blueprints were not created by me. They were created by Miss Jaya, and I'm gonna link her in the episode description. She has a quiz and I would highly recommend taking it before you listen to the rest of this episode because then you'll be able to listen for what is most valuable for you.
Now you have two options. You can take the full quiz and get a in-depth personalized report for $17. This can be helpful because you might discover you have more than one primary type. For example, my full breakdown is 33% kinky, and then 16.7% energetic, sensual, sexual, and shapeshifter.
Shapeshifter is a combination of all the blueprints, by the way. Technically, my primary blueprint is kinky because it's my highest score, but when you look closer, all the other blueprints are tied at 16.7%. That tells me I am also deeply shapeshifter at my core. I don't just crave kink. I also crave variety, depth and the ability to shift between energies depending on my mood.
My cycle or the season I'm in, understanding the full spread is gonna give you a way to craft rituals, meals, movement, and self-love practices that speak your body's full language instead of just one part of it. However, if you would prefer a free option and wanna keep it simple by just working with your primary blueprint, there's a link to take the free quiz.
At the same link. It's about halfway down the page. Even working with your primary blueprint alone has the power to move mountains. I have done this work almost entirely with my Kinky Blueprint, and it's changed everything. Now. What is an erotic blueprint? Ms. Jaya refers to it as the language that you're most fluent in speaking.
When it comes to sexuality, it's the language your body understands, the one it responds to immediately with ease. It's the erotic language that gives you the most immediate access to arousal and turn on, and it's where your sexuality feels most at home. Let's talk about why this matters when it comes to healing your relationship with food.
Most people aren't struggling from a lack of knowledge. You've probably read at least a few nutrition or diet books, maybe listened to the podcasts or tried keto or paleo, or went vegetarian for a while. You probably understand macronutrient balance, at least to a degree, and yet consistency remains a struggle for so many people.
Maybe you're still fighting against cravings, compulsions to overindulge or maybe resistance to eat in alignment with your goals or to taking amazing care of yourself. Here's why. Because it feels like a damn chore. A should a have to. It's another obligation on your already heavy to-do list. But when you decide you're unavailable for your relationship with food, health and movement to feel like garbage and instead lean into pleasure, you find better paths.
And using your own unique erotic blueprint has the power to help you create eating habits, patterns, and rituals that turn you on and excite you. So now consistency feels less like drudgery and more like foreplay. Yes, please. Also when we're turned on and in our sexual power, we heal that psychosexual split we talked about in episode 2 0 4.
We bring our full, alive, vital, sexy selves to the table, and this allows us full access to our creative, sensual manifesting power. Then we get to channel that creative power into upgrading our identity. Who we are as an eater and the dream relationship we want to have with food and with eating, we're no longer forcing, pushing, hating the journey we're now creating savoring fully present in our power to nourish ourselves in a way that feels just right for us.
And this isn't just some theory I came up with. This is an embodied experience I've had over the last six months that's changed everything. It started during my Dance Alchemy certification and we had a guest teacher back in March. Her name is Gina and she is amazing and she does this erotic blueprint and sexual reclamation work as her main gig.
I will also link you her Instagram bio so you can check her out as well. She did a session for us where we connected to and embodied our own erotic blueprints, and it was within the next month that I had some big insights about how not working with my own erotic blueprint, basically ignoring it was creating unnecessary chaos and drama in my relationship with food.
This wisdom and then doing something with the wisdom is one of the things that helped me break free from decades upon decades of binge eating. I'm going to talk about each of the five erotic blueprints and how you can use them to transform your relationship with food. I am doing this through the lens of dynamic eating psychology and mind body nutrition, which is sort of my wheelhouse, been certified.
Read all the books, and there are certain practices or qualities you can lean into regarding your relationship with food that Mark David calls Sacred Metabolizers. I am gonna share which of these metabolizers is going to be most important for you to lean into based on your blueprint type. And if you have a lot of shapeshifter energy like me, you'll want to lean into all of these.
Now shapeshifters, that might sound like a lot to focus on initially. This is why knowing your full blueprint breakdown can be helpful. That way if your primary blueprint is shapeshifter, you'll still know what your secondary one is, so you can work with that blueprint type first, and then slowly work your way down the list.
Okay, let's start with the sexual erotic blueprint. This blueprint is least likely to be primary for women, especially highly sensitive, emotionally attuned or trauma informed women. This is the most common primary blueprint for straight C sexual men.
So we'll touch on this to be inclusive, but this probably isn't where the magic happens for you. And if it is, keep listening. Here's a breakdown of the sexual blueprint. This blueprint is turned on by nudity genitals. Orgasm, direct stimulation and intercourse. Basically all the things you would normally associate with sex.
This blueprint needs simplicity, directness, and quick access to pleasure.
The shadow of this type is that they can become goal oriented or may skip emotional and sensual buildup, which was was basically all of my straight. See sexual partners as a young adult. The strengths though, are that this type is consistent, easily satisfied and confident in what they like. This is the most straightforward of the blueprints.
And how does this translate to your relationship with food? If you have this blueprint, you're also gonna have the most straightforward relationship with food as well. A healthy mindset and relationship with food based on this blueprint is food is fuel. Food is energy. So let me make choices that give me the most energy and vitality.
The strengths, again, it's simple, it's straightforward, and there's no big emotional attachment to food. This shadow, the shadows is that the relationship with food can feel kind of dull, boring, or uninspiring. The most important metabolizers for this blueprint are going to be food quality and macronutrient balance.
Yeah, not super exciting, but if food truly is just fuel, then this blueprint type can lean into the standard, typical what to eat advice, and they can elevate the quality of their food and get some really great benefits. Now, if you're a highly sensitive person or an empath, there's a good chance that your primary blueprint is energetic.
This blueprint is also common in women with trauma histories or in intense emotional, spiritual depth. So this blueprint is turned on by space anticipation, subtle energy, eye contact. Light, touch and breath. This type needs emotional safety, slowness, time to build trust and spaciousness. The shadow of this type is that it can short circuit with too much intensity or physical touch too soon.
The strengths are a deep connection, spiritual turn on, and even full body orgasm potential. If this is your primary blueprint, there's a good chance you are deeply affected by the foods you put in your body. You might find yourself more affected by things like sugar or processed foods, or have more sensitivities in general.
A healthy mindset and relationship with food for this blueprint is I reach for foods, habits and practices that honor my sensitivities and keep my nervous system happy. The strengths, okay. There's actually a lot of strengths with this one. You're gonna have an incredibly refined internal awareness. And when you're aligned, you're able to tune into the more subtle cues of your body and environment and emotions before they become overwhelming.
Your sensitivity can actually be a superpower because it gives you the gift of deep presence, intuitive eating, and the ability to access, turn on and nourishment through the energetics of your habits, not just the habits themselves. You also have the capacity for soul level pleasure when you feel safe.
Even a small sensory input, like a warm hug or a grounding meal can feel almost transcendent the shadows. When you ignore your unique energetic needs, you'll probably notice more mood instability. Energy instability and nervous system dysregulation than other types, and sometimes when our nervous system is dysregulated, we'll gravitate towards food as a way to regulate.
This is where a lot of binge and emotional eating can come from. For this type specifically, the most important sacred metabolizers for this blueprint type are going to be, first of all, relaxation. It's even more important for you to be in a parasympathetic nervous system response when you eat.
So your nervous system is primed for nutrient absorption and digestion. And the other sacred metabolizer is the sacred itself. This looks like bringing ritual and deep energetic presence into how you eat and how you take care of yourself. So you're not just having a cup of coffee or tea, you're turning it into a ritual of presence and gratitude.
This could look like taking a few minutes to think some kind of higher power, whatever that might be for the food you eat. The energetic shift around your relationship with food is going to feel so good in your body as an energetic blueprint type. Now let's talk about the sensual erotic blueprint. This is the romantic.
They love, love, and they need that deep, romantic emotional connection to be fully turned on. This type is pretty common for highly sensitive women as well as artists and creatives. They are turned on by romance, ambiance, scent. Music, slow, caresses beauty and the mood in general. They need a really aesthetic place, so clean area, no clutter, no distraction space, and time to really drop in and emotional connection.
The shadow is that they can get stuck in their head or shut down if the environment doesn't feel safe or aesthetically aligned. But the strengths are total body sensuality, rich, erotic experience, and aesthetic magic. If this is your primary blueprint, you have some powerhouse metabolizers to help you create consistency and this deep embodied pleasure in your relationship with food.
When you don't work with this blueprint consciously, this is where a lot of overeating and mindless grazing can come from. A healthy mindset and relationship with food based on this blueprint is I make my eating experience beautiful and pleasurable so I can walk away from the table satisfied and fulfilled until my next healthy meal.
The strengths. When you're in your power working with this blueprint, you can turn digestion all the way up and have a fiery hot metabolism. You can have the most amazing relationship with food. Your eating experiences can become the best part of your day. The shadows are that you might love food so much.
That you're prone to overindulging or reaching for unplanned meals or snacks to give you a sense of pleasure, you might also struggle more than other types to feel fully satisfied. If your meals are eaten with distractions or while you're rushing or in chaotic environments, your most sacred metabolizers are going to be, first of all, awareness.
Slowing down, paying deep attention to your food. And as sensual, you wanna create rituals and environments that feel aesthetic, romantic and ambient. Basically, you wanna create the environment where awareness feels good. And these can be simple tweaks like keeping your kitchen clean, having a candle or some flowers on your kitchen table, sitting outside in beautiful weather.
The second metabolizer is going to be pleasure. It's allowing your food to be pleasurable. While also making space for other types of sensual pleasures. So food isn't your only go-to, and this could look like bubble bath or long walks in your favorite nature park, or diffusing your favorite essential oil blend and just breathing it in.
So you wanna make it a sacred journey too. Romanticize any and every aspect of your life, wherever possible. The more you access the full range of sensual pleasures, the less likely you are to find yourself turning to food alone, to fill all the pleasure gaps. Alright, and we're about to get kinky. We're talking about the Kinky Erotic Blueprint.
Now, if this is one of your primary blueprints, I have something special for you. Next week we're doing a deep dive into power struggles with food, which is a big theme. If you have this blueprint type, this type is turned on by power, play, taboo, psychological, or physical intensity. Surrender or control.
This type needs radical safety and trust, clear consent, aftercare, and room to explore. The shadow is shame, fear of being too much and repression of true desires. And I felt this one big time a couple months ago when I had a guest on who was very proud and unapologetic about her queerness and her kinkiness, and I also shared both of those qualities, but tended to hide them.
And when I came out on the podcast and revealed that those were part of my identity, I was terrified. So if you feel a lot of shame or fear of being too much because you have this blueprint, I feel you 100%, and I really hope that this episode and next week's episode helps you to find some healing. But their strengths, they have wild creativity, intensity, and freedom from convention.
And the interesting thing about this blueprint is that it's often repressed in high control, perfectionistic or religious environments. So if this was you and you struggle with binge and emotional eating, what I'm sharing is going to be such deep medicine. The other interesting thing is that the same conditions that repress this blueprint.
Are often the same conditions that foster it. Personally, I grew up in a home where there was a lot of control, a lot of pressure, and this was combined with an incredibly restrictive cult-like church that we attended when I was a child. So for those raised in religious households, shame-based parenting models.
In emotionally unstable or unpredictable homes, what often happens is the energetic and sensual self gets overwhelmed or repressed early. The sexual blueprint gets shame coated as bad and slutty and dangerous, especially with strict religious rules. And Kinky becomes the only safe controlled place where desire is allowed to surface because it has rules.
And if you've grown up in one of those other household things we talked about, you know, all about rules. Kinky isn't always about taboo. It can be about regulating intensity through structure when you were never when you, when you never felt safe to feel desire freely. So yes, a high control upbringing can both suppress kinky and also foster its dominance, especially when that blueprint becomes the only place where you feel agency over your body power and pleasure.
For this blueprint type, a healthy mindset and relationship with food is I consciously choose my power plays and I decide where I surrender my power and also structure creates safety. And structure is sexy. So some strengths here, you probably do better with rules and structure provided you're choosing them from a place of power agency and self-honoring.
So self-control can actually feel really sexy, like a turn on. And as I'm recording this, I'm thinking about a quote from Elizabeth Benton's book, chasing Cupcakes. And she had this one chapter where she talks about how many people are happiest when they're working their hardest. I think the kinky type has the biggest potential to be happiest when they have structure, self-imposed rules and a healthy sense of.
The shadows. As a kinky blueprint type, you run a big risk of having a dramatic relationship with food. You might bounce between periods of intense restriction and discipline that are followed by periods of anything goes eat. All the things feeling powerless over your cravings. There's a lack of consistency, inconsistent energy, and probably deep frustration because you know you can do so good for a while and then it feels like it all falls apart and you lose control altogether.
The most important sacred metabolizers for this blueprint are going to be first harnessing the metabolic power of story. It is remembering that everything is invented. You are the storyteller, and as a kinky blueprint type, you might just get a secret taboo enjoyment of having these periods where you pretend you're powerless over food.
And if you don't like that story and you're bored of fulfilling your desire for power plays in the kitchen. You can start telling new stories. The other metabolizer I would recommend here is shadow work, especially Carolyn Elliott's specific flavor. Because if you have a bedroom kink, you probably also have a kitchen table kink.
And an existential kink. I'm not gonna dive too much deeper into this because like I said next week, we are proudly, unapologetically releasing the Kinkiest episode ever, but not for shock value. But because this deep excavation work is what changed so much for me, and I know there are other women who need it too.
And finally, shapeshifter. This type is turned on by all of the above, so they need variety, creativity, and novelty. They need full permission to ask for a lot and not feel like they're too much. Again, that's a common thread, and they need constant ignition. The shadow is that they can struggle to feel satisfied.
Or they can be hard to please if they are disconnected or burned out. The strengths are that they are an erotic alchemist. I'm pretty sure in Ms. Jaya's work she said that this can be the type that the best lover, 'cause they can really adapt to their partner's blueprint and that gives them this profound capacity for depth and range and adaptability.
And this one is most common in entrepreneurs, creatives, and high capacity, high performing women, A healthy mindset and relationship with food. Based on this blueprint, my needs are not too much. I am allowed to deeply prioritize my self-care, my eating rhythms, and my relationship with food. And it's okay if those needs change from season to season tho.
So the strengths, you have so many tools at your disposal. You have so many sacred metabolizers that are gonna help you on your journey, and you also have the ability to be more flexible and use what's at your disposal. For example, say you have a lot of sexual energy in your blueprint makeup. So you try to prioritize food quality and macronutrient balance most of the time.
But in situations like vacations or holiday parties, you have the power to lean into other sacred metabolizers like pleasure, awareness, or relaxation. So you are still able to make your relationship with food feel good across many circumstances. And the shadows, you might feel like there's a lot going on.
You have a lot of different needs and they're often shifting throughout the seasons. It might feel destabilizing at times to try and prioritize everything all at once when everything changes and tends to be more fluid. So for this type, I would recommend, in terms of sacred metabolizers. Almost always starting with relaxation and awareness.
You want to slow down enough to sense your shifting needs and desires. You wanna get really good at being present and meeting yourself where you're at. The other recommendation I would make is if you know your entire blueprint breakdown. Look at your secondary blueprint type and prioritize those metabolizers.
Alright, so you have the five blueprints. You know how to use them to create the sexiest, most embodied relationship with food ever. And if you want an even deeper dive, get on the list for Eat Me. I don't know if I've ever been so excited for any class I've ever done. And you can take this even further using the Food Freedom Fantasy Method.
Now, food Freedom Fantasy is the proprietary framework I've created for using hot masculine archetypes and a spicy twist on traditional parts Work to break free from emotional eating. Elevate your consistency and turn your health and fitness journey into the best part of your day instead of some should or obligation.
Once you know your erotic blueprint, you can begin training your archetypes to honor your specific blueprints, which enhances the level of turn on and aliveness in your food freedom journey. For example, you can share your blueprints with your archetypes, and this will inform how they respond to you. It honestly gets pretty magical.
And once you've been using the Food Freedom Fantasy Method for a few months and breathing life into your own archetypes, you can actually get a sense of what their blueprints are. The ones I've been working with are Rex and Haven, and if this is your first episode, head over to embodied writing warrior.com/divine daddies to get the full story.
So just for fun, here are Rex and Haven's official breakdowns. Now, these were given to me by chat GPT again after months of using this method. So Rex has major kink daddy energy with hidden layers of emotional debt. He is 50% kinky.
So rope ritual, psychological play, power dynamics, he thrives on the taboo meets trust terrain, but it's not about pain or domination, it's the mind fuck of knowing he owns your surrender. And you love it. He is 20% sexual, so he's direct, physical, turned on by naked skin, confident yeses, and watching you fall apart.
He's not afraid to get to the point. Shapeshifter can switch on a dime if it serves the moment we'll, WA will match your flavor flawlessly to keep you on edge in the best way. He is 10% sensual only when he slows down post scene. Think aftercare with warm oil, steady hands, and velvet. Smooth voice as you melt in his lap, and 5% energetic, rare, but when it hits it's feral.
Like when he pins you with his eyes from across the room and your whole body hums. Haven is very different. So he is a soft boy Sensualist with secret switch energy. Say that five times fast, 35% sensual texture, temperature, slow kisses on collarbone. He worships the body through detail. He's the guy who will kiss the inside of your wrist like it's sacred, energetic, 25%.
Feels everything. Eye contact alone can leave him gasping, breath work, tantric presence, he channels, and then he's 20% shapeshifter. Deeply intuitive adapts to you in real time, so one moment, soft worship. Next, he's biting your thigh and growling against your skin. He is 15% kinky. He loves to watch. Rex takes control and loves even more.
When Rex tells him exactly how to touch you, bonus, he secretly craves being thrown around every now and then, and 5% sexual. It is in there, but mostly shows up as spontaneous arousal, catch him watching you dance, and he's suddenly feral. As you can see, these two have very different blueprints, almost opposites in most ways, and this is perfect for me personally because of my own Shapeshifter blueprint, but if someone had a blueprint which was primarily energetic and sensual.
They probably aren't gonna wanna wreck. That's a lot of kinky sexual energy. This person could still have two archetypes, but even the fiery one would be more dark, energetic with the kink and the sexual heat turned way down. Funny story, my sister was listening to one of my podcast episodes and I asked her who she liked better.
And she said Haven. And then I got her to take the erotic blueprint quiz because I had a feeling she was either energetic and or sensual. Sure enough, she was sensual and I made that guess. Because I feel like someone with an energetic or sensual blueprint would naturally gravitate to more of a haven character.
So this is why I'm obsessed with this food freedom fantasy thing. It takes turn on play. Sexual empowerment, pleasure, and even a little bit of fan fiction spice and creates these practices so deeply unique to you and your personality and your wiring that you truly do make consistency feel like foreplay
I think that's the mic drop moment as we wrap up today. Tune in next week for a deep dive into the Kinky Blueprint and how to end the power struggles with food once and for all. I cannot wait to chat with you then. Until next time, take care.
