234. Top 5 Reasons Why High-Achieving Women Self-Sabotage With Food
234. Top 5 Reasons Why High-Achieving Women Self-Sabotage With Food
Narrative Alchemy: The 5 Core Wounds Behind Emotional Eating in High-Achieving Women
Why can a woman build a business, manage a team, raise a family, hit major goals… and still feel powerless around food?
The answer is rarely discipline.
It’s identity.
Inside Food Freedom Fantasy, I teach a five-element identity process called Narrative Alchemy — a trauma-informed framework that heals five core wounds simultaneously so consistency becomes natural, not forced.
Let’s break down what’s really happening beneath emotional eating.
The Five Core Wounds Driving Emotional Eating
1. Earth – “I Am Not Safe”
When safety is missing, the nervous system looks for regulation.
Food works.
Digestion activates the parasympathetic nervous system. Eating creates temporary calm. It’s borrowed safety.
But until you learn how to become your own safe place, food will keep filling that role.
Inside the Earth element, we build:
Presence
Safe structure (not rigid rules)
Rhythm and ritual
Nervous system capacity
Safety first. Always.
2. Water – “I Am Not Loved”
High-achieving women often learned love through performance.
Be good.
Achieve.
Don’t fail.
Don’t disappoint.
When love feels conditional, food becomes:
A reliable comfort
A stand-in for affection
A numbing agent after shame
A punishment after perceived failure
This creates the classic loop:
Performance → Slip → Shame → Eating → More Shame
Inside Water, we work with:
Attachment repair
Emotional regulation
Inner child rituals
Healthy shame + repair
Love becomes unconditional. Food no longer needs to be.
3. Fire – “I Am Powerless”
This wound hides beneath high competence.
It shows up as:
Feeling powerless over cravings
Believing one wrong choice means total collapse
Getting stuck in healing loops without movement
Fire teaches authorship.
You do not need to be fully healed to move.
Inside Fire, we practice:
Statecraft (creating your internal weather)
Decisive embodied action
Shadowcraft (power reclamation)
Embracing your inner villain in healthy ways
Power returns through movement.
4. Air – “I Have to Be Perfect”
Perfectionism fuels emotional eating more than almost anything else.
The “one wrong bite” becomes:
“I’ve failed, so I might as well go all in.”
This is the drama triangle at work:
Perfectionist (villain)
Tender part (victim)
Food (rescuer)
Inside Air, we:
Interrupt all-or-nothing thinking
Retrain self-talk
Shift from awareness to authorship
Build identity through direction, not perfection
Progress replaces collapse.
5. Ether – “I Can’t Trust”
This is the deepest layer.
It’s not about self-trust.
It’s about trusting beyond yourself.
When trust is missing:
Control increases.
Chronic stress rises.
The body seeks relief.
Binge eating becomes the pressure valve.
Inside Ether, we cultivate:
Embodied surrender
Positive spirituality
Nervous system support beyond control
Control softens. The body stops bracing.
The Problem With Misdiagnosing Your Wound
Many high-achieving women are applying the wrong tools to the wrong wound.
Trying to regulate safety when it’s actually attachment.
Trying mindset work when it’s actually power.
Trying discipline when it’s actually perfectionism.
It’s like icing a knee when you have a dislocated shoulder.
Narrative Alchemy works because it addresses all five wounds — in order — so misdiagnosis becomes impossible.
Why Dance Alchemy® Matters
These wounds weren’t created through logic.
Many formed in early childhood — sometimes before conscious memory.
That’s why Dance Alchemy® is powerful.
Every practice moves through:
Earth → Water → Fire → Air → Ether
One song at a time.
You don’t have to analyze your way to food freedom.
Your body already knows how to move toward:
Safety
Love
Power
Permission
Trust
Dance Alchemy simply gives it the space.
Identity Over Obsession
Food Freedom Fantasy is not about obsessing over macros, plans, or rigid accountability.
It’s about identity transformation.
Consistency becomes a byproduct of:
Safety
Secure attachment
Embodied power
Self-trust
Spiritual support
This is Narrative Alchemy.
And this is how high-performing women finally create food freedom without self-control warfare.
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Important Note: A high score does not indicate you’re broken or anything is wrong with you.
It means there’s powerful work available for you.
More awareness.
More latent power.
More freedom waiting on the other side.
Transcript
Hello, and welcome back to a very special episode of the show.
I'm doing something that has not been done before on the podcast. I'm taking you inside Food Freedom Fantasy so you get to sample the program's magic.
I'll be sharing the audio from lesson 1.3 of the program, where I cover the proprietary framework I used to help high-performing, growth-oriented women transform their relationship with food once and for all.
I'm sharing this for two reasons:
1. Because this framework sheds light on why high performing women can crush it in every other arena of life and still struggle with food.
It sheds light on why the next diet or super-structured accountability-driven challenge might not be the right play and in many cases, can make emotional eating worse.
2. This is going to show you what to expect inside this container. It lays out the map, which is going to allow you to self-select. And this is SO important.
Here's the thing: this work won't be for everyone. Some people want to be told what to do, thinking that's the answer. Some people gravitate towards instant gratification or surface level solutions - and that's okay. Sometimes, strategy and quick relief are exactly what a person needs in certain seasons. They're not wrong - they're just not what this container is about.
This program is for women who have done enough strategy hopping and tried to rush and force this process enough times to know - I'm ready to do something different. I'm ready for deep, sustainable change, and this happens by shifting these 5 key patterns at the root cause level.
I'll be including a special asssessment for this episode that you can find on the Food Freedom Fantasy info page. I'll link this in the description for you - by joining the waitlist, you get your free assessment. You also get added to my VIP list where I share a weekly love letter every Friday. Then you're also on the waitlist for future live rounds of Food Freedom Fantasy.
And If you are like, "Yes, let's go, I want this" - Food Freedom Fantasy is currently open for enrollment. We start next week. Pay in full and extended payment plans are both available on the information page. This program is lifetime access which means you get to keep the course portal, Telegram community connection, and future updates to the program as it evolves.
Now, you might be curious but uncertain in this season. This is why the waitlist exists. By joining it, you'll be first to hear about upcoming special pricing/and pre-sale bonuses for live rounds.
Inside this episode, you’ll also hear the origin story of Narrative Alchemy, Food Freedom Fantasy, and how two of the most influential mentors in my life helped shape this framework.
I’ll link ways to connect with them in the show notes as well. Okay, let's dive in.
Welcome to lesson 1.3, where I am taking you through the five steps to narrative alchemy. This is a five element identity based process that heals all five core wounds simultaneously through story, through embodiment, so that when you're building consistency.
It comes from a place of safety versus a place of pressure and self-control. Okay, and as we dive in, I have to talk about the roots of narrative alchemy. I am truly standing on the shoulders of giants. I have had the privilege of working with some incredible mentors, and much of this program is inspired by what I was taught by these mentors.
First, I was taught about the five core wounds by Patrick Dominguez at Inner Coach, and I have been working with Patrick since 2021 by far, one of the best mentors I've ever had. Whether you are wanting to. Transform yourself personally, professionally, or both. And he has this five core wounds framework.
What's very interesting is that he was doing another training on these five core wounds as I was building the beta course portal for food freedom fantasy, and I realized that the five elements. Correspond beautifully with his five core wounds. So what I'm gonna do is share these wounds and talk about how all of them contribute deeply to challenges with food eating and consistency.
And we also have to talk about dance alchemy, which is another modality that I am certified in. And this was created by Brooke Yantzi. And this is a five element trauma-informed style of dance, which actually addresses all five of these core wounds, somatically. So five core wounds, five elements in the dance alchemy process.
What I'm gonna do now is take you through this elemental journey, talk about the five core wounds, talk about how we work with them in the program, and then I'm gonna finish by sharing how dance alchemy also takes us through this process on a somatic level, in as little as 10 to 15 minutes sometimes. So this is the journey we're going to be starting in the element of earth.
From there, we move to water, then fire, then air, and finally ether. So let's talk about each of these elements and each of the core wounds in a bit more detail. First core wound is the element of earth, which corresponds with I am not safe. Now, one of the reasons that nervous system regulation has become such a buzzword and so widely discussed is because so many of us carry this foundational wound around safety.
And a lack of safety in the nervous system can show up in many ways. And in our case, it can look like eating to soothe anxiety or difficult emotions because it might feel unsafe to fully feel what you're feeling. Could also look like eating during times of transition or big life changes, even positive ones.
Also eating during periods of expansion where you're putting yourself out into the world more, stretching your comfort zone, maybe becoming more visible in some ways. Until you've learned the skill of becoming your own safe place, your system will often interpret novelty, uncertainty, or disruption to your regular routines as danger.
And when the nervous system doesn't feel safe and is cycling through, fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, binge and emotional eating often become a regulation strategy. Here's the important part here. Your body is not wrong for this. Your system knows that if you eat enough food, digestion has to start, and digestion requires the parasympathetic nervous system, which is our rest and digest state.
In that sense, eating does create temporary safety. It works, but it's this form of borrowed safety, almost artificial safety. So instead of becoming your own safe place, food becomes a way to downshift the nervous system often by numbing distress and overwhelm and perceived danger. So how we work with this in Food Freedom Fantasy, we address this first by building your capacity for presence.
And this is one of the most underrated skills for creating food freedom and one of the most powerful. As your capacity to stay present in your body grows, the need to escape, numb, or regulate through food naturally begins to soften. We also create safety through structure, rhythm, and ritual. And here's something that matters deeply as we dive in here.
The structure we build will not be prescriptive. I will not give you a rigid routine or a fixed set of steps to follow. And this is because everyone's relationship with food safety and consistency is as unique as their fingerprint. And also overly rigid or prescriptive systems often erode safety rather than create it.
For many people, rigid systems can even activate attachment wounds, which we'll talk about in the next slide. Instead, the work here is about co-creating safe structure and honoring that you are the expert on you. My role is not to tell you the right way to create safety, but to guide support and help you listen to what your system actually needs.
There is no one right way to feel safe. There is only your way, and we're gonna build that together onto the element of water. And the core wound here is I am not loved. And whether people realize it or not, this wound is a major player in struggles with food, eating and body image. If you're in this program, you already know something important.
You don't have an I don't know what to eat problem. It's not discipline, it's not willpower. If this were simple, you would've solved it by now because you are intelligent, committed, and deeply devoted to your own growth. And this tells us something important. This isn't about information. It's about attachment.
Here's what many high performing women miss when it comes to healing their relationship with food. Something I missed for an extremely long time. There's a chance you learned to regulate your sense of safety worth and belonging through performance inside attachment systems. And this could be inside work.
Business, romantic relationships, and this can look like a number of things. It can look like choosing emotionally unavailable partners and becoming hyper fixated on the chase, believing that earning their attention would finally prove your worth. This can look like overgiving in relationships or in work environments because somewhere along the way you learned that love and belonging were conditional on doing everything right and being everything to everyone.
And for business owners or creatives, this can show up as needing proof you're enough through clients engagement. Numbers or algorithmic attention. So where does food come in here? It shows up in two powerful ways. First, when love feels conditional or unavailable, food can often become a stand-in for affection and stability, because food is reliable, comforting, it's always there when we need it.
Even if the comfort is brief, your nervous system knows it can count on it, and second food can become another performance arena. This is why you may experience periods where your incredibly consistent habits feel easy, routines feel locked in, everything is flowing, and then you have one-off meal. One off day and suddenly those performance conditions that made you feel lovable to yourself have disappeared.
Then the shame comes in, and now food gets pulled in for two reasons. One, to escape the intensity of shame and frustration. It becomes a numbing agent. And two, it can also come in as a way to punish yourself for failing. And this is gonna create a familiar loop performance to laps, to shame, to eating. To even more shame to another dip in performance and the cycle can go on and on.
This is also why those rigid prescriptive do these five things every day. Challenges can often be harmful for high performing women who already learned that love is conditional on their performance. In spaces that are built around strict accountability, surveillance, public metrics, and constant comparison, the nervous system often feels unsupported.
Instead it feels watched, monitored, judged. And for someone carrying the, I'm not loved, unless I perform wound, that environment can recreate the original attachment injury. So instead of I'm supported while I learn the body registers this as I'm only worthy if I show up. I am. Lovable, as long as I don't mess this up and I'll lose belonging if I fail At first, this can look like motivation.
Give us that little boost, but underneath your nervous system is bracing, and when performance dips because life happens, that shame rushes in fast. For many women that shame then drives emotional eating, avoidance, self-sabotage. Not because they don't care, but because the system is so overwhelmed and trying to escape the pressure.
This is not a discipline issue. This is not being about coachable or uncoachable. This is about an attachment trigger. Which is why trying to white knuckle consistency in high surveillance environments often leads to the exact opposite of what people want and why we do things differently inside of food freedom fantasy.
We work with this wound very intentionally because it's foundational. So first, you're gonna learn short, powerful journaling practices that teach you how to move through any emotional weather without turning to food or harmful coping strategies. This is where you learn to love yourself through the full range of human emotion, not just when you're doing well or feeling high vibe.
You'll also be guided through playful, potent inner child repair rituals that are gonna help younger parts of you learn that they were never unlovable, they were just unmet, and you're gonna start to meet them yourself. And with these masculine archetypes were creating together. The second thing we do is we work with healthy shame and repair.
Yes, healthy shame is a thing and we're gonna learn about it. And this is some of the most important work in the entire program. You're gonna learn how to course correct after an off meal, a day, a week, or even a month without withdrawing love. Through repair rituals, we're going to recreate attachment and safety.
Not because we were perfect, but because we love ourselves enough to stay connected. And here's the magic. The more you practice these skills, the faster the rebound becomes. So there's less spiraling, less punishment, more steady self-trust being built. And eventually love stops being something you learn through performance and food.
Now no longer has to play that role for you onto the element of fire where the core wound is. I am powerless. This wound can be especially sneaky for high performing, growth oriented women. On the surface, you may look capable, disciplined, and driven, but underneath this wound often shows up as the quiet belief that certain situations have more power over you than you have over yourself.
And in a food freedom journey, this can look like feeling powerless over cravings or compulsions in specific circumstances. It can look like believing that one wrong choice will automatically spiral into a total loss of control, and it can also show up as getting stuck in reaction to life instead of response.
So letting circumstances, moods, or external events dictate your energy, your behavior. Or your sense of self. And finally, maybe the most sneaky of all this can look like getting trapped in a healing loop, which is doing a lot of reflection, a lot of processing, gathering insight without movement. Before we dive deeper, I wanna talk about why fire comes after earth and water safety and love.
Are both very deep wounds for people. They're layered and they're not things that you fix once and move on from, which is why you have a lifetime access to this portal because healing happens in layers, not in this linear progression, but this is where fire enters very strategically. Fire is about not waiting to feel fully safe or fully loved before you move.
Fire teaches you something radical and powerful, that you can build deeper safety through self-trust, and you can begin healing relational wounds as an inside job through aligned action. Now, this is not reckless action. This is not performative action. It's decisive, embodied movement, and we work with this in Food Freedom Fantasy in a few primary ways.
The first is through statecraft, which is the art of creating your own internal weather. Another one of the most powerful pieces of this program, you've already learned how to feel your feelings in water. Now you learn how to respond instead of react. And this is not about forcing yourself through discomfort or about muscling through urges.
This is about reclaiming that fiery authorship, which looks like choosing clear, grounded actions without requiring perfect conditions or complete healing to be present first. The idea that you must be fully healed before you move is this myth that keeps people disconnected from their power. You do not need to be healed all the way.
You only need to be healed enough to take that next step that moves you forward, and very often healing deepens because of the movement. And this relates back to food freedom in two ways. First, when you can create your own inner weather and feel better, more of the time, you make better choices and you have less compulsions to overeat and self-sabotage because how often do we wanna overeat or binge eat when we're peaceful or happy?
Not very often. It tends to be when we're sad, angry, lonely. And second, you're no longer using the, I'm not fully healed reason to stay stuck in old patterns. You channel healthy fire into clear, decisive actions that facilitate more healing as you move. This wound really heals when you stop waiting to feel powerful and start trusting yourself and Ur innate power because you're taking steady, consistent action.
And then there is shadow craft, which is shadow work that is designed specifically to interrupt, binge eating, emotional eating, and self-sabotage. You're gonna learn. Some empowering reframes around power binge eating compulsions, partially through an existential kink loop, and partially through creating your own meaning around circumstances.
And then you're also going to explore why embracing your inner villain restores enormous amounts of latent power, not so you become reckless or cruel. But so you stop abandoning yourself at the exact moment. Strength is required. All right, onto the element of air, and this core wound is, I have to be perfect.
Here's the thing about high performing women perfectionism and all or nothing thinking are some of the biggest traps. High standards are not the problem, but when standards become rigid, unrealistic, or unforgiving, they're often gonna lead to things like chronic dissatisfaction, burnout, and repeated harmful cycles with food.
You'll know this wound is active. If you resonate with what Geneen Roth famously called the one wrong bite syndrome, and what I also think of more broadly as the one wrong move pattern. So here you have the plan, you're following the plan perfectly. Every detail is dialed in, and then one wrong bite happens.
Or one missed workout or one task that doesn't get done. When this wound is alive, that single deviation can become the breeding ground for the infamous effort moment. Once perfection is gone, the system decides, well, I already failed, so I might as well go all in. And one small rupture turns into a free for all.
And then there's another way that this wound can show up beneath the surface, especially when you're learning something new. When you're learning a new skill, you will almost always be bad at it at first, and that's not a flaw. That is literally how learning works. But for someone carrying the I have to be Perfect wound.
Being new can feel unbearable. And this is where the drama triangle of emotional eating comes in. And this is a framework I learned through Richard Schwartz's work in No Bad Parts. And here's how this plays out. The villain is the inner perfectionist. She holds this wound and she starts to get very noisy when you fall short, especially again when you're learning the new things.
The victim is the younger tender part of you, and this part absorbs the criticism and feels the inadequacy, the shame, and the sadness. And then the rescuer or the firefighter comes in with the binge and emotional eating. Its job isn't to sabotage your goals, it's to help this victim part find relief. It steps in to stop the pain as fast as possible, and food is often a easy, accessible, patterned way of doing this.
So if you notice this cycle in your life, it's a clear sign that this wound is active. One other sneaky expression of this wound is. Where it can often masquerade as inaction. So you're in that endless reflection, endless insight, endless inner work, all in the hope that one day you'll feel perfectly healed before you act.
So perfectionism creates air without direction. Lots of awareness, little movement. Paradoxically, that search for clarity often keeps transformation just out of reach. And we work with this in Food Freedom Fantasy in a few ways. So we bring in mindset work, which I imagine you're very familiar with, but it's mindset with a heartbeat.
So we directly address the all or nothing thinking, the perfectionism, the dark side of being deeply committed to growth, AKA burnout, chronic self-criticism, never letting progress feel like enough. So we retrain your focus towards celebration, learning, and worthiness in the present moment, not someday, not after you figured out all the things.
And just as importantly, we also teach you to move from awareness to authorship. So you move from just understanding patterns, to creating meaning from life's circumstances in a way that moves you to towards action. This is how insight becomes identity and knowing turns into embodiment. As that shift happens, food stops being the place where perfectionism creates collapse because you're no longer using perfectionism as the metric for worth.
So this wound heals when you realize that progress doesn't require perfection. It requires direction, self-trust, and the willingness to stay with yourself when you're human. And that is gonna change everything, not only with food, but everything in your life. Now we've moved on to ether where the core wound is, I can't trust, and this wound comes last for a reason.
It is much harder to work with this wound unless you've already created a baseline of safety healed attachment wounds stepped back into personal power softened perfectionism, and yet this is also one of the most important wounds for high performing women to address. This wound isn't really about self-trust, because that's something we've been cultivating through the first four elements.
This wound is about trusting beyond yourself, trusting others, trusting life, trusting that something bigger than you is holding the world together so you don't have to. When this wound is active, the nervous system is almost always bracing, and then you're gonna stay contracted, you're gonna stay vigilant, and you start to try to control everything because control feels like the only way to be safe and to get what you want.
But here's what this is costing you. Chronic control creates chronic stress in the body. And chronic stress will drain your energy, deplete your inner resources, and this will often drive binge and emotional eating as your system searches desperately for relief. So when trust is missing, excess control fills the gap.
So you might find yourself hyper managing food, workouts, business relationships, the pressure builds. The system gets exhausted and eventually binge and emotional eating or self-sabotage appear not as failure, but as the body's attempt to force rest and release when nothing else is allowed to soften.
And we work with this in Food Freedom Fantasy by creating the core shift from, I can't trust to, I am supported. Even when I don't have control, this is what loosens the binge control loop at the deepest level. We work with this through trust and embodied surrender, not as an idea, but as a lived experience, and we also work with it through what I call positive spirituality.
And this is not about adopting someone else's belief system. It's about consciously choosing and building a set of spiritual beliefs that help your nervous system feel supported rather than punished. And this is deeply personal. For some people, traditional religion feels nourishing and grounding. For others, especially those with religious trauma, it does not, and I understand this nuance intimately.
So the purpose of this final element is not to be dogmatic or prescriptive. What this is here to do is help you discover what it means to be held by something bigger than you on your terms. Whether you call it God, life, the universe source, or something else entirely. When this support is internalized, the pressure to micromanage the external world begins to dissolve.
And as control softens, so does the compulsive need to binge in order to escape it. So when this wound heals. Your nervous system learns. I actually don't have to grip all of life so tightly to survive. And when that grip loosens food, no longer needs to be that pressure release valve. Let's talk very briefly about misdiagnosed wounds.
Because this is one of the key reasons people can be doing all the things, using all the tools, and not finding relief. So misdiagnosing and attempting treatment on the wrong wound can contribute to binge and emotional eating. I also did an entire podcast on this, which I will link in the bonus resources, but let me give you the elevator pitch.
The elevator pitch here. Number one, a wound gets activated and misdiagnosed. For example, maybe you think you're dealing with safety when you're actually dealing with an attachment wound, so you apply tools that would work for a safety wound, but no relief occurs because you're speaking the wrong language and because you're a high performing growth oriented woman, more effort and different tools are often applied.
'cause you are determined to figure this out and it still doesn't provide that relief. So you feel more pain, more discomfort, and also frustration. Maybe even a little bit of hopelessness because you're doing things and nothing seems to be helping and that prolonged suffering can often lead to. Eating for self-soothing.
I like to think about it as you're icing the knee when you have a dislocated shoulder. And that's the beauty of Food Freedom Fantasy and this program, it's really more like a full body massage that's gonna get to all of the pain points in the perfect way, in the perfect order, so that even if you misdiagnose a wound, you're still gonna be taking care of it , by moving through this process.
Okay. Now let's talk about why Dance Alchemy is such a powerful somatic tool for healing these wounds through the body. This matters because in most cases, these wounds were not created through logic. Many of these wounds formed very early in life, often in our first five years, and sometimes even while we're still in the womb.
So this means we're often trying to heal experiences and wounds that we don't consciously remember. And here's the good news. We don't have to remember them. We don't have to relive them because our bodies are incredibly wise. With intentional, consistent movement, the body can release and reorganize old patterns without reliving painful memories.
Without forcing insight, and without digging for the story of why this is alive for you, dance alchemy allows us healing to happen one song at a time. In every full length dance alchemy practice, we move through all five elements. So that means it doesn't matter if you're feeling one wound, several wound, all five at the same time.
And you also don't need to diagnose yourself. You don't need to figure out which wound is alive. Dance alchemy is going to eliminate the risk of misdiagnosis entirely because every single practice offers medicine for each wound. So let's talk about how the elements work in the body. We always begin with earth, which brings us into presence.
It reconnects us to the body. We've already talked about how presence alone can dramatically reduce binge and emotional eating. Disassociation and numbing are learned practices, and these are often what are alive when we turn to food. And presence is also a practice, and the element of earth helps us build it.
The more moments of presence we create, the safer the body feels over time. From there, we move into the element of water, which is gonna help restore emotional flow and reconnect us to our feminine essence. And this is where parts of us may have been shamed in the past for being too much, too emotional, too sensitive, or too soft.
In water, you make space for all of you. You let emotions move without resistance, and by doing this, you're sending a clear message to every part. You're sending the message that you're welcome, you're allowed, and you're loved. Then we move into the element of fire, and this is where the energy shifts in a big way.
The music builds. You start stomping, you're shaking. Fire is about release, and it's also about reclamation. This is where you step back into your power, let go of what no longer serves you, and remember that your body knows how to lead. So this is not about aggression, this is about aliveness. From there, we move into the element of air, which is expansion.
So this is where we open the heart to celebration, to possibility, to vision where we're going. So in this element, you begin to embody the version of you who is already enough, already healed enough, already worthy of the life you want to create. This is often where the inspired ideas, the clarity, and the insight arrive not from force, but from openness.
And finally, we arrive at ether. We end each of these practices with a grounding into integrative meditation, and this is where we allow everything to settle, where trust replaces effort. Where you get to connect to that, something larger than yourself, whatever that means for you. So Ether allows the nervous system to rest, integrate and feel supported.
So I am absolutely obsessed with this modality. It is so powerful, and we are gonna be dancing together on the live calls. I'm also going to be recording each of these dance practices so you can return to them as often as you would like, especially during those moments where you're not feeling quite right and there's some stuff coming up, but you're not sure what exactly it's, you can turn on some songs and dance it out instead.
And as this program grows, more dance alchemy practices and events will be added because this is not a one-time release. This is about creating a relationship with your body and your body knows how to heal when you turn to these practices consistently. So you don't have to figure this out with your thinking brain.
You don't have to analyze your way to food freedom. Your body already knows how to move towards safety, love, power, permission, and trust. Dance alchemy is simply going to give the space to let your body do what it was designed to do. Your rewrite ritual is to take the elemental landscape assessment and something to remember here.
This is a snapshot, not a scorecard. There's a good chance you'll have high scores in more than one element. Most people carry all five wounds layered across time. Everything from childhood experiences, past relationships, ancestral patterns, or old seasons of stress and transition. All of these will contribute to the wounds, and this journey is designed so that every element is addressed over time in deeply powerful ways.
So this assessment is not about diagnosing yourself. It's really to give you a lay of the land so you can see what's ahead for you. And we're also going to be revisiting this assessment at the end of the 12 weeks to see how everything has shifted for you.
